Making Friends With Failure

Apr 20, 2015 by Reen Rose


It doesn’t matter how successful a person becomes, there is always room for a little failure. Setting a goal, working hard to achieve it and then falling short, may be one of the hardest life-lessons for me to come to terms with. I participated in my first ever speech competition and placed third in the third round, which is actually a pretty good result, but I was aiming to make at least one more level so I felt like I had failed.

My feeling of disappointment was accompanied by a desire to hide away for a while. I guess I wanted to lick my wounds. I knew that many people were waiting to hear how I did and although I knew they would be supportive, I was reluctant to share my news. Failing is bad enough without shouting it from the rooftops.

However, here I am putting my lack of success out there for anyone who wants to read about it. I am sharing how I was feeling in my heart of heart; just in case you have similar feelings when things don’t turn out as well as you had hoped. It is always good to know that your reactions are not freakish. On the other hand, perhaps mine are; who’s to say?

My mind tolerated a brief period of wallowing and then pushed me into action. Within 24 hours I have moved on to looking for lessons from my experience and I have made new competition speaking goals. I have successfully spoken many times as a keynote speaker, but you need some additional skills for competition. I found it much harder to be authentic when I had written a speech and then delivered it. I typically plan my speeches in point form to give me a skeleton to work with, but the sentence structure and details are added as I go along. This was my first competition, but I don’t plan on it being my last. I have more to learn and ten months to learn it in.

I love the way life has such a sense of humour. As I was looking at my Facebook newsfeed this morning an article caught my eye. It gave ten points to help you if you wanted to do what you love for a living. Number ten: Make Friends with Failure. It was the perfect advice to get me laughing and on my journey once again.